Humanly Lovebirds

Pop star Ke$ha sang "your love is my drug". I posit that life plays a very dark joke on us. It seems to find humour in providing us the ability to clumsily fall madly in love, for what I believe to ultimately be a mechanism of evolution. -We procreate, purposefully or otherwise.

 The highs we feel when we are enamoured, induced by the pleasure chemicals' effects on the brain, are the reason for the intense longing for your mate when they have only been away for a mere 15 minutes. When one says that their mate intoxicates them, that can often times be taken literally. Love intoxicates you in a very similar manner to a narcotic. An opiate brings about a euphoria completely comparable to that of a perfect, under the moon light kiss.

 However, we must remember that life isn't always perfect sailing, and that there rests a dormant bitterness under the sweetest of kisses. The question of whether this bitterness activates depends largely on the person's ability to consciously control what nature has made subconscious, or involuntary to us.

 The bliss is impeded when the faculties that ignite the fireworks within us, when we look into the eyes of the love of our life, fail to stop creating those explosions when an anatomically correct curve ball is thrown at us. This curve ball comes complete with something different, something curiously peculiar that peaks your interest. The culprit can be an unfamiliar accent that you fancy or perhaps something about their attitude. This is often quite the confusing time. Irrespective of how much one's mate causes their breath to escape them, they aren't exempt from being the but of nature's joke.

 We have evolved in such a way that one man is attracted to women, and a woman is attracted to men (I do acknowledge the legitimacy of same sex couples as well). Being smitten doesn't erase the primitive tendencies that each of us possess. At most, they are suppressed.  All other women, or men will not become transparent because one's finger is weighted with metal.

  Fortunately as human beings, not only do we have primitive instincts, but we have pretty sophisticated frontal lobes. This area of the brain aids in fighting unacceptable social responses, and choosing between good and bad, based on outcomes. This area should indeed be utilised to its full potential. The divorce rate doesn't appear to be getting any more beautiful, after all. 

-cheers d.a.